Taylor’s at it again. Last
weekend she performed her recent breakup song “Never Ever Getting Back
Together” at the Grammys and took a swipe at an ex. This is one in a long line of send-offs inspired
by the real-life heartbreak she’s become synonymous with.
Why does this happen to her so often?
I have a cynical theory - that her record label and handlers exaggerate what
would typically be normal dating drama, reinforcing her image and making her songs
much more personal and powerful.
But let’s say this is real and she always strikes out. We all have friends who seem to be unlucky in
love. But how much of this is outside
their control and how much is a self-fulfilling prophesy? Taylor may be attracted to the wrong people, but
if her history and music is any indication, she could be trapped in a viscous
cycle, struggling to break out of it.
While this pattern sells plenty of records, there are a some issues with
her message when it comes to a few widely-held health tenets:
Health Tenet #1: Importance
of strong long term relationships, both romantic and non-romantic
Issue: Taylor’s music
discourages or minimizes the value of these relationships and says it’s OK to
be alone
Health Tenet #2: Importance
of a sense of control on mental / physical health
Issue: Taylor’s songs often
lay the blame of failed relationships on her partner, allowing her to play the
victim and brush responsibility away from her
Health Tenet #3: Power of positive
thinking and optimism
Issue: There’s an underlying
pessimism in her songs and an ongoing narrative that she’ll never be able to
find love or happiness
Maybe this is going too far – at the end of the day, Taylor’s just singing
fluffy pop music targeted towards confused, hormonal teenagers. But it does beg a larger question – what is
the entertainment industry’s responsibility when it comes to health? For every success story (e.g., Jennifer
Hudson’s weight loss, Robert Downey Jr.’s success in rehab), we’re fed many more
stories about celebrity failure and downfall.
These narratives may make us feel better about ourselves, but can
reinforce negative attitudes and desensitize us to bad behavior.
I give credit when the entertainment industry takes a more nuanced view
of these issues (e.g., non-exploitive profiles on celebrity challenges and
recovery), but this won’t be enough if performers like Taylor continue to be
role models and send potentially harmful messages.